I was a guest on a podcast!

Since I have my own podcast — and have been cohost of two others — you might think I'd be over the rush of being a guest on a podcast. You would think wrong!

I was recently a guest on Blueprint Breakers with Amy A Palmer, talking about my experience with polyamory and ethical non-monogamy.

It was a chance for me to try out some of the insights I've been turning over in my mind. Things like, the fact that I have been doing a form of code switching to ensure I don't make people, specifically men, uncomfortable by being too smart in their presence. Or the realization that I had internalized the notion that caretaking = love, and that that caretaking traditionally only goes in one direction. Or the fact that being polyamorous is not the same as not being committed to my partners.

I also had a chance to tell some of the story of my spouse's coming out. When it first happened, it didn't feel like my story. Rather, I was a supporting character in their story. I'm learning to tell it with me as a main character.

You can listen here or wherever you get your pods, or you could watch on YouTube.